Forgiveness is letting go of and releasing the negative connection that was formed with that particular relationship so that we can move forward. It frees our energetic cords from the negative attachment that was made so that we can move on feeling lighter, more free and at peace with ourselves, with the other person and ultimately with the universe.
We need to learn how to forgive what hurt us but never forget what it taught us. This is where courage and wisdom play a part in releasing the hurt and retaining the lessons.
By not forgiving we become paralyzed and stuck, we allow ourselves to be controlled by the past and unable to live in the present. Forgiveness is an act of love. It allows us to open our heart which in turn allows us to experience more love in our lives; both in terms of giving as well as receiving love. We move out of victim-mode, take personal responsibility and move into a position of empowerment where we are in control of our emotions.
Forgiveness is not something that comes naturally to us; it requires conscious effort, however once mastered it is the biggest gift we can give to ourselves.